EDUCATING HYPERACTIVE CHILDREN

As a parent, of course you are very overwhelmed to face a child who is very stubborn and can not be quiet, even very unruly. If left for a while, the child has made a mess of the whole house. Sometimes your chest is made to pound fast, when the child plays with items that are easily broken and endanger him, such as playing glasses, plates and bottles made of glass. In fact, sometimes children like to jump on chairs, beds and run around.

The thing that makes you annoyed, when the shouts and scolding, even the pinch of parents is no longer ignored by the child. Children continue to play around, like not knowing fear and fatigue. You own that made fatigue and fear continue to supervise children. You feel relieved and calm, when the child is sleeping.

This stubborn and unobtrusive child behavior by some parents, some consider normal and trivial. Because, they consider the problem a common thing in childhood and will disappear along with the development of the child's age. In fact, not infrequently the behavior of the child, actually reflects or gives an illustration of the symptoms of emotional disturbances and behavior in children that should be as early as possible get serious attention and treatment.

This child who is stubborn and can not be quiet, if you leave it in the long term, then the disorder can only be an inhibiting factor for the formation of a mature personality in the adult age of children. Likewise, this recalcitrant and indwelling child can have difficulty doing the learning process. This can happen because children will have difficulty in focusing attention and concentration of learning. As a result, children's learning achievements can be very low. You don't want this, of course, right?

To deal with this stubborn and silent child, you don't have to go directly to a psychiatrist or psychologist. If the symptoms of a recalcitrant and indwelling child are still mild, then you can still anticipate this problem yourself, so as not to develop further.

Why do children become stubborn and can't be quiet?
  
Children become recalcitrant and cannot remain silent, this indicates symptoms of disturbances in children's emotions and behavior. Especially this occurs in children aged under five (2-5 years). If you observe, the child continues to move and cannot remain silent following his attention, which is confined to many desires. Where the child's desires arise from the child's emotional drive for appreciation of stimuli from the environment in which the child is located.

Children become stubborn and cannot be quiet, this illustrates how children react to the environment in which children are. The child's reaction or behavior is influenced by the child's emotional attitude in responding to stimuli from his environment. Whereas what drives the emotional outbursts of the child itself is the neurobiological development of the child who is disturbed. As you know, endocrine, andrenaline and suprarenal gland glands greatly influence the emotional activity of a child (someone). Therefore, the differences contained in these glands, certainly affect the emotional development of children (someone). In addition, changes in physiology or activity of the glands are also strongly influenced by stimuli or emotional experiences of the child from the environment in which he is located.

Thus, in addition to the physical and mental development that determines the emotional maturity of children, it is also strongly influenced by social environmental factors that provide training or inner experiences in children. Physical and mental interactions of the nature of children with their environmental influences have a significant role in the development of children's emotional and attitudinal behavior. In other words, children's emotional maturity is very much needed as a basis or driver of quality children's behavior or behavior. Disruption of children's emotions, it affects the behavior of children. Children who are emotionally stable, it will be easier to concentrate and think logically, able to motivate themselves to stay focused on activities that are constructive and able to foster a harmonious relationship with the environment in which they are located.

In children who are stubborn and can not be quiet, the emotional sensitivity of children is very high, so that children are easily affected by some stimuli that appear in front of him. This child's emotional sensitivity makes it difficult for the child to focus or prioritize his attention on one focus, so that the child is easily switched.

Then you need to be aware and understand, the causative factors or triggers why children become stubborn and cannot be quiet. Now, if you study further, it turns out that children become stubborn and cannot be quiet because of several factors, namely:

Neurobiological developmental factors of children who are disrupted

Where nerve functions as receiving stimuli from the outside are unstable or hypersensitive, so that children are easily aroused by a lot of attention or switching over and the awareness that accompanies that attention is very low.

Environmental factor

In addition to children experiencing difficulties or obstacles to focus or intensify attention due to their neurobiological disorders, also environmental factors play a major role in giving a lot of emotional stimulation to children. Children's attention becomes scattered towards all aspects of stimuli that arise from the child's environment. Many aspects that tempt and attract the attention of children, so that he is aroused to explore all aspects that stimulate his attention. Where the child's attention is very difficult to stick to one aspect of attention and he is so easily switched over.

Such various stimuli affect the child's emotional sensitivity. This emotional sensitivity causes emotional shock and increases children's andrenaline activity, resulting in tremendous physical energy boost in children. This causes children to be quiet and aroused to always move to follow the object of changing attention. This scattered attention affects the emotions of children to explore all aspects of children's attention without knowing fatigue.

Food poisoning

This food poisoning can occur, especially for children with autism, so that wrong eating can cause him to be unconscious and unable to be silent (hyperactive). Foods that have a negative impact on autistic children, namely foods that contain cow's milk protein (casein) and wheat flour protein (gluten). Well, these two elements cannot be digested by their digestive system. The result is a process of accumulation of apioids or morphine-like substances known as dermophin in the body. This accumulation of substances causes the child to become unconscious and angry or hyperactive.

The worst possibilities, if these children are stubborn, cannot be quiet and unruly, are left to the fore, including:

• Children are difficult to control.
• Children like to behave aggressively, rebel and oppose the wishes of others.
• Children want to win alone (do whatever they want).
• Children have difficulty adapting to the environment in which they are located.
• Children cannot calm down.
• Children find it difficult to focus attention and concentration.
• Children have difficulty thinking logically.
• Personality of children who are not mature (not mature in thinking)
• Child learning achievement is low.

How do you overcome a stubborn child who can't keep quiet?

Managing this recalcitrant, indolent and unruly child with a hard and fierce attitude will not help resolve the root problems faced by the child. Instead, it is necessary to take a special approach.

To overcome this neurobiological disorder or emotional disturbance, patience and effort are needed to provide intensive development training and emotional control of children. The training is intended to attract children's interest and attention, so that they are accustomed to being able to control their attention in one aspect of experience intensively and to control or direct excessive emotional energy in one aspect of constructive experience. Likewise, this training is expected to be able to increase the child's emotional maturity as the basis for forming behavior in reflecting (responding) to stimuli in front of him or how he is able to foster a harmonious relationship with the environment in which he is located.

The trainings that you can provide to overcome these stubborn, indivisible and unruly children, as follows:

• Direct / attract children's attention in a directed manner. You can invite children to always do activities or play together that are tailored to the wishes of the child. Activities or games, of course, in accordance with the age level. The activity that you prepare must be truly an activity that can attract the attention and interest of the child. Likewise, the chosen activity is an activity that can channel the child's excessive emotional energy.
• Train directed responses or respond. Children need to be trained how they must respond or respond to stimuli given to them. For example:

Children are asked to catch the ball.

The child is asked to put something in its place.

Children are asked to kick the ball.

Children are asked to color according to the example.

The child is asked to continue or throw the ball that was offered to him.

• Children are trained to learn to observe (sharpen observation). To improve a child's ability to control emotions, build concentration and increase children's concentration in constructive activities, you can train children to learn to observe. For this reason, you need to create conditions that stimulate children to learn to observe. To be able to create conditions that stimulate children's observation activities, you must be actively involved in activities or games with children. The basic capital of observation activities are the functions of the five sensory devices, namely vision, hearing, palpation, smell (smelling) and tasting. Well, you can direct the child's sense tool to observe, sharpen attention and action by leading children to focus attention on one side of the activity or game. Likewise, you can stimulate the mind (concentration of children) by always asking questions that challenge the attractiveness and reasoning power of children, such as:

Asks the child to kick the ball into the goal or aim at the goalkeeper

Asks the child to make a jumping motion between the arrangement of tires or circles

Asks the child to throw the ball into the basket

Asks children to count certain objects from a group of different objects

Ask the child to taste the taste of some foods and ask about the taste of each food

How to arrange these blocks, so that they become a house shape, Aldi?

There are how many birds in the tree,

and so on.

• Practicing children's physical kinesthetic intelligence. This recalcitrant, silent and unruly child has extraordinary physical energy. The child is very active in moving to follow his emotional impulses. To be able to direct and channel the excessive energy, the child needs practice by focusing on neutralizing or channeling this extraordinary energy in constructive activities, such as training children's physical kinesthetic intelligence. This physical kinesthetic intelligence is a combination of the ability to think and dexterity or expertise in carrying out a movement of all members of the body. To develop children's kinesthetic intelligence requires learning activities that are kinesthetic, dynamic and continuous. You can motivate children according to their interests, such as playing acting, dramatic improvisation, creative movements and all kinds of activities involving physical activities (sports). You can invite children to the playing field, obstacle course, swimming pool and gymnasium. Likewise, you can give children the opportunity to make various toy models, involved in handicraft activities, such as carving wood, drawing / painting or forming clay. You can also invite children to visit activities or sports competitions. Likewise, no less important, children can be invited to camp and involve themselves in various activities outside, such as exploring nature. These activities can channel children's physical activity and relaxation of children. Practicing physical kinesthetic intelligence is also beneficial for children to be more able to control their emotions, help ways to direct and focus attention and improve their ability to concentrate in doing various activities.

In addition, you need to explore the possible effects of food poisoning that cause or as a trigger factor for hyperactivity in this child. If you find out from your observations that there are indications of the influence of food eaten by children on these aggressive (hyperactive) behavior patterns, then you need to avoid having children consume food which is the trigger factor.

Such is the way that can be used to overcome a recalcitrant child, unable to be quiet and unruly. The key to your success in dealing with a child's behavior deviation lies in your patience and willingness to help provide effective training to children. The child's success in overcoming various obstacles in controlling emotions and fostering good behavior is your victory and happiness. 

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 IDEAL WAYS TO IMPROVE CHILDREN'S INTELLIGENCE

Examples of Being Successful and Rich People

To be a successful and rich person is very much determined how the person is able to build a frame of mind, see and take advantage of the golden opportunities that are around us. Examples of developing ways of thinking and acting, as well as gaining a golden opportunity can be seen from the following story.

This story starts from the inspiration of the blue lights of the journey of the leaders in the struggle for education. At that time, getting an education was not easy. Moreover, we are mostly descendants of ordinary people, laborers, and coolies. The fact to get the quality of an established life (success) is determined by intelligence, education, skills to get and take advantage of golden opportunities. To change one's life line can not rely solely on the strength of manual labor alone. Therefore, we are not willing to be said to be mental of coolies and only become manual laborers. We also have the same right to be successful people.

Here, we want to prove, we are not mental of coolies and want to change the lifeline. Enda Kiebo wants to break the family life line, which is said to be a descendant of poor bones and poor veins. But, the problem from the beginning was that he had faced Benhart the son of a Plantation Administrator who didn't want Enda Kiebo to go to school with him. Moreover, Benhart has a vicious bouncer like Ronggur who has the nickname the "Conqueror" who continues to terrorize Enda Kiebo. Fortunately, Enda Kiebo was assisted by Dream Hunters facing Benhart et al's terror, as well as Ronggur's "Conqueror".

Another advantage, Enda Kiebo has an extraordinary teacher, who is able to burn the soul and open a super-genius science that is second to none in the world to achieve dreams. Through his teachers, Enda Kiebo tried hard to unmask the dream hunter's secret.

On his way, Enda Kiebo and Yan Utama tried hard to save Sundari, almost becoming victims of Ronggur's lust. They tried to find a way for Sundari to rise from adversity and become a member of a dream hunters.

How did Enda Kiebo succeed in overcoming the obstacles of Benhart et al, or Ronggur who has the nickname the "Conqueror"? Did Enda Kiebo and Yan Utama succeed in helping Sundari? How do these extraordinary teachers galvanize Dream Hunters to master the super genius science that is second to none in the world? Did the Dream Hunters really succeed in achieving their dreams in real life? To know the answer, let's read this novel completely! Guaranteed this novel gives a lot of inspiration that is second to none in the world !!!

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THE SECRET PATH OF DREAM HUNTERS

Form of Self-Concept

You should not despair, if your child has a problem developing his behavior. You also should not be ignorant to see children having problems, especially children do not have self-confidence. You are a wise man, if you put forward to find a way out of every problem.

I am sure, you definitely want your child to grow up to be a successful person, such as the prodigy who carries out the history of the world Thomas Alva Edison, Albert Einstein, Marie Curie and others. Or like Ronaldo (soccer player) and smart like Stephen Hawking. At best, your child has the enthusiasm and courage to imitate the behavior of these figures to achieve achievements in their lives and actualize all their abilities.

But now that be a problem, how to realize these hopes become a reality? If we pay attention to children having problems with their confidence. Children always complain and give up easily. If asked to do something, the child is overly afraid and feels uncertain about being able to do it. Moreover, children of courage, effort. Children do not have the courage to communicate with others. Not only that, we are often bothered with many things, because children do not have the courage to do / fulfill their own desires and needs.

Certainly it is undeniable that children who do not have self-confidence, it will hamper the development of intellectual achievement, skills and independence of children. Children become incompetent in everything. Children do not have the courage to actualize all their abilities. We certainly do not want, if children become dependent on others, especially from their parents. If children are dependent, what will happen after they grow up?

If we want to shape or enhance children's self-confidence, then we must know in advance the elements that make up that confidence, so that it is easier for us to determine the right and effective way. We need to understand this self-confidence is nothing but part of a person's personality characteristics. While the process of forming or increasing self-confidence is greatly influenced by psychological factors and technical skills that a person has.

SELF CONCEPT

Psychological factors forming SELF CONFIDENCE as personality characteristics are closely related to one's self-concept. This self concept is a core or important part of a person's personality development because it determines how a person behaves, thinks, acts and behaves. Through this self-concept, how does one look at himself or reflect to do an assessment or measure strength, ability, courage, meaning in all that he has. Thus, the formation of CONFIDENCE is very dependent and influenced by one's self-concept. In other words, the more solid the self-concept, the more positive the feeling of SELF CONFIDENCE.

This element of forming self-concept includes a combination of five elements, including:

1. Self control. This self-control regulates the power or power of impulse and desire in oneself which determines ability, confidence, courage, feelings and emotions within oneself. Self-control in this self that gives a positive or negative self-concept influence. If we want strong self-control of children, we must be able to instill the importance of active thinking, positive thinking, giving aspirations and directed ambitions to children.
2. The mood that is being experienced. These living moods are like happy, anxious, or sad. Description of the state of mood or feeling greatly affects the formation of one's power. The effect of happiness  is an energy source that increases power or self control, so the maturation of self-concept is even more steady, even the sense of CONFIDENCE is positive. Conversely, feeling depressed, sad, pessimistic, anxious, angry and upset even weighs on the heart, thus affecting, sucking or decreasing power or self control, so that the concept of self becomes negative and makes people not BELIEVE IN SELF. Therefore, we need to exhale feelings of carefree and happy children in the face of various activities or problems. We teach skills to overcome problems in children, so that they do not fall into sadness, so that they do not become moody and pessimistic. Familiarize the child to develop his smile in dealing with and working on everything, so that his chest is spacious and the reasoning process runs in full. Remember, a sweet smile can increase one's psychic energy.
3. Physical image. A person's physical condition greatly affects his mood and self-control. If the acceptance of physical conditions is satisfactory, then the mood and self-control increase, so that the self-concept that is formed is also positive. For example, children realize their ideal body shape, so their physical image becomes positive. It is different if on the contrary, if the child sees his body shape is not ideal, then the child becomes anxious and busy thinking or regretting his physical condition. As a result, children feel inferior, anxious and so on. Here is our duty to guide children to accept the reality of their physical condition. If the physical condition cannot be repaired, then the child needs to be made aware and diverted to think of other advantages or potentials of him. Weakness on the one hand, does not mean closing the possibility of the advantages possessed by the child. If another child's potential or strength can be raised, then his image will increase. The shortcomings that exist in him are no longer a problem and no longer mean anything. Remember every human being has advantages and disadvantages. Give real examples to children, such as world leaders, artists, presenters who are CONFIDENTIAL even though their physical condition is not ideal.
4. Social image. One element that influences the maturation of self-concept is how to assess and accept the social environment for children. Acceptance and assessment of sociable, intelligent and great children can positively enhance a child's self-concept. Conversely, the acceptance of a bad environment for children, such as children considered naughty, stupid, ugly and so on can hurt the hearts of children and is interpreted very deeply imprint on the hearts of children. The child becomes negative about himself, feels worthless or inappropriate and inferior. The child has a negative self-concept and his confidence is very weak. Therefore, the attitude of harassing and cornering children should be avoided early on.
5. Self image . 

         This self image is an illustration that includes:

• self-profile values, such as level of intelligence, social status, economy and role in the social environment,
• ideal ideals of children who want to be achieved and how much influence the ideal figures are idolized, both those in the environment or fantasy idols,
• self-worth (pride) towards the value of self-role in the environment.

To improve the child's self image, the child needs to be respected, we increase the value of his role in the family environment and his association. If the value of the role of the child is quite meaningful, then the concept of self is even more stable and his confidence is high.

This combination of the five elements gives an idea of ​​how self-concept is formed. By paying attention to the five elements that make up this self-concept, we can take into account the right steps to direct the formation of positive self-concepts in children to grow up in children's confidence. Preferably, the formation of the five elements of the above elements is done early, so that persistence emerges from the character and basic characteristics of the child. Because, the character and basic characteristics of children will remain in their teens.

Technical skills aspects

A thing that sometimes is unthinkable to us and becomes the core problem for some people. People experience confusion when they want to do something. Confusion is not a matter of courage to do or try, but rather lies in how the process of starting something is heavy.

For children who have difficulty starting something more because the child does not know how to arrange the way of thinking to do the process of activities to be carried out. Children have not been able to arrange the stages to carry out an activity until the activities can be realized and completed. Here is the importance of the aspect of technical skills, namely the ability to develop a framework of thinking and acting in a focused, directed and measurable step by step to carry out the activity process.

These aspects of technical skills include tactical, methodical and imaginative knowledge.

1. Tactical. Tactical means the effort to direct the process of thinking, acting quickly and effectively in a measured and directed direction towards the object of the business target. This tactical indicates dexterity and skills in managing thoughts to act quickly and precisely in processing a stimulus that is faced. To practice this tactical knowledge by familiarizing children with observing or observing everything in detail.
2. Methodical, Methodology implies procedures on how to move the process of reasoning and action effectively in processing the subject matter, so that it can parse, compile, weigh and solve the subject matter in the form of a pattern of action or initiative. To practice methodical knowledge, familiarize with how to analyze (parse elements), synthesize (compile) and evaluate (judge). Effective ways to train children's methodical knowledge can be done by getting used to giving a direct example in solving a problem (problem) or work or involving children directly in problem solving.
3. Imaginative, Imaginative means creative thinking in examining and solving the problem by taking into account possible possibilities that can be raised to overcome the main problem.

Now is the time, we think about and improve the quality of interaction with children and the quality of interactions that are intentionally actualized or raised in a planned and systematic way to shape the persistence of character and nature of children from an early age. Because according to psychologists the development of character persistence and the nature of children begins to settle when children enter adolescence. Likewise, if we want children to have basic traits that support their ability to believe, then plan a pattern of constructive interaction with children from an early age.

To explore further measures, the problem of the formation and development of the child's positive self-concept, then we can learn from the book:

"EXTRAORDINARY WAYS TO MAKE YOURCHILD'S CONFIDENCE."

Greetings, I hope you get enlightenment about establishing self-confidence in your child.