As a parent, of course
you are very overwhelmed to face a child who is very stubborn and can not be
quiet, even very unruly. If left for a while, the child has made a mess of the
whole house. Sometimes your chest is made to pound fast, when the child plays
with items that are easily broken and endanger him, such as playing glasses,
plates and bottles made of glass. In fact, sometimes children like to jump on
chairs, beds and run around.
The thing that makes you
annoyed, when the shouts and scolding, even the pinch of parents is no longer
ignored by the child. Children continue to play around, like not knowing fear
and fatigue. You own that made fatigue and fear continue to supervise children.
You feel relieved and calm, when the child is sleeping.
This stubborn and
unobtrusive child behavior by some parents, some consider normal and trivial.
Because, they consider the problem a common thing in childhood and will disappear
along with the development of the child's age. In fact, not infrequently the
behavior of the child, actually reflects or gives an illustration of the
symptoms of emotional disturbances and behavior in children that should be as
early as possible get serious attention and treatment.
This child who is
stubborn and can not be quiet, if you leave it in the long term, then the
disorder can only be an inhibiting factor for the formation of a mature
personality in the adult age of children. Likewise, this recalcitrant and
indwelling child can have difficulty doing the learning process. This can
happen because children will have difficulty in focusing attention and
concentration of learning. As a result, children's learning achievements can be
very low. You don't want this, of course, right?
To deal with this
stubborn and silent child, you don't have to go directly to a psychiatrist or
psychologist. If the symptoms of a recalcitrant and indwelling child are still
mild, then you can still anticipate this problem yourself, so as not to develop
further.
Why do children become
stubborn and can't be quiet?
Children become recalcitrant and cannot remain silent, this indicates symptoms of disturbances in children's emotions and behavior. Especially this occurs in children aged under five (2-5 years). If you observe, the child continues to move and cannot remain silent following his attention, which is confined to many desires. Where the child's desires arise from the child's emotional drive for appreciation of stimuli from the environment in which the child is located.
Children become recalcitrant and cannot remain silent, this indicates symptoms of disturbances in children's emotions and behavior. Especially this occurs in children aged under five (2-5 years). If you observe, the child continues to move and cannot remain silent following his attention, which is confined to many desires. Where the child's desires arise from the child's emotional drive for appreciation of stimuli from the environment in which the child is located.
Children become stubborn
and cannot be quiet, this illustrates how children react to the environment in
which children are. The child's reaction or behavior is influenced by the
child's emotional attitude in responding to stimuli from his environment.
Whereas what drives the emotional outbursts of the child itself is the
neurobiological development of the child who is disturbed. As you know,
endocrine, andrenaline and suprarenal gland glands greatly influence the
emotional activity of a child (someone). Therefore, the differences contained
in these glands, certainly affect the emotional development of children
(someone). In addition, changes in physiology or activity of the glands are
also strongly influenced by stimuli or emotional experiences of the child from
the environment in which he is located.
Thus, in addition to the
physical and mental development that determines the emotional maturity of
children, it is also strongly influenced by social environmental factors that
provide training or inner experiences in children. Physical and mental
interactions of the nature of children with their environmental influences have
a significant role in the development of children's emotional and attitudinal
behavior. In other words, children's emotional maturity is very much needed as
a basis or driver of quality children's behavior or behavior. Disruption of
children's emotions, it affects the behavior of children. Children who are
emotionally stable, it will be easier to concentrate and think logically, able
to motivate themselves to stay focused on activities that are constructive and
able to foster a harmonious relationship with the environment in which they are
located.
In children who are
stubborn and can not be quiet, the emotional sensitivity of children is very
high, so that children are easily affected by some stimuli that appear in front
of him. This child's emotional sensitivity makes it difficult for the child to
focus or prioritize his attention on one focus, so that the child is easily
switched.
Then you need to be aware
and understand, the causative factors or triggers why children become stubborn
and cannot be quiet. Now, if you study further, it turns out that children
become stubborn and cannot be quiet because of several factors, namely:
Neurobiological
developmental factors of children who are disrupted
Where nerve functions as
receiving stimuli from the outside are unstable or hypersensitive, so that
children are easily aroused by a lot of attention or switching over and the
awareness that accompanies that attention is very low.
Environmental factor
In addition to children
experiencing difficulties or obstacles to focus or intensify attention due to
their neurobiological disorders, also environmental factors play a major role
in giving a lot of emotional stimulation to children. Children's attention
becomes scattered towards all aspects of stimuli that arise from the child's
environment. Many aspects that tempt and attract the attention of children, so
that he is aroused to explore all aspects that stimulate his attention. Where
the child's attention is very difficult to stick to one aspect of attention and
he is so easily switched over.
Such various stimuli
affect the child's emotional sensitivity. This emotional sensitivity causes
emotional shock and increases children's andrenaline activity, resulting in
tremendous physical energy boost in children. This causes children to be quiet
and aroused to always move to follow the object of changing attention. This
scattered attention affects the emotions of children to explore all aspects of
children's attention without knowing fatigue.
Food poisoning
This food poisoning can
occur, especially for children with autism, so that wrong eating can cause him
to be unconscious and unable to be silent (hyperactive). Foods that have a
negative impact on autistic children, namely foods that contain cow's milk
protein (casein) and wheat flour protein (gluten). Well, these two elements
cannot be digested by their digestive system. The result is a process of
accumulation of apioids or morphine-like substances known as dermophin in the
body. This accumulation of substances causes the child to become unconscious
and angry or hyperactive.
The worst possibilities,
if these children are stubborn, cannot be quiet and unruly, are left to the
fore, including:
- Children are difficult to control.
- Children like to behave aggressively, rebel and oppose the wishes of others.
- Children want to win alone (do whatever they want).
- Children have difficulty adapting to the environment in which they are located.
- Children cannot calm down.
- Children find it difficult to focus attention and concentration.
- Children have difficulty thinking logically.
- Personality of children who are not mature (not mature in thinking)
- Child learning achievement is low.
How
do you overcome a stubborn child who can't keep quiet?
Managing this
recalcitrant, indolent and unruly child with a hard and fierce attitude will
not help resolve the root problems faced by the child. Instead, it is necessary
to take a special approach.
To overcome this
neurobiological disorder or emotional disturbance, patience and effort are
needed to provide intensive development training and emotional control of
children. The training is intended to attract children's interest and
attention, so that they are accustomed to being able to control their attention
in one aspect of experience intensively and to control or direct excessive
emotional energy in one aspect of constructive experience. Likewise, this
training is expected to be able to increase the child's emotional maturity as
the basis for forming behavior in reflecting (responding) to stimuli in front
of him or how he is able to foster a harmonious relationship with the
environment in which he is located.
The trainings that you
can provide to overcome these stubborn, indivisible and unruly children, as follows:
- Direct / attract children's attention in a directed manner. You can invite children to always do activities or play together that are tailored to the wishes of the child. Activities or games, of course, in accordance with the age level. The activity that you prepare must be truly an activity that can attract the attention and interest of the child. Likewise, the chosen activity is an activity that can channel the child's excessive emotional energy.
- Train directed responses or respond. Children need to be trained how they must respond or respond to stimuli given to them. For example:
Children
are asked to catch the ball.
The
child is asked to put something in its place.
Children
are asked to kick the ball.
Children
are asked to color according to the example.
The
child is asked to continue or throw the ball that was offered to him.
- Children are trained to learn to observe (sharpen observation). To improve a child's ability to control emotions, build concentration and increase children's concentration in constructive activities, you can train children to learn to observe. For this reason, you need to create conditions that stimulate children to learn to observe. To be able to create conditions that stimulate children's observation activities, you must be actively involved in activities or games with children. The basic capital of observation activities are the functions of the five sensory devices, namely vision, hearing, palpation, smell (smelling) and tasting. Well, you can direct the child's sense tool to observe, sharpen attention and action by leading children to focus attention on one side of the activity or game. Likewise, you can stimulate the mind (concentration of children) by always asking questions that challenge the attractiveness and reasoning power of children, such as:
Asks the child to kick the ball into
the goal or aim at the goalkeeper
Asks the child to make a jumping
motion between the arrangement of tires or circles
Asks the child to throw the ball into
the basket
Asks children to count certain
objects from a group of different objects
Ask the child to taste the taste of
some foods and ask about the taste of each food
How to arrange these blocks, so that
they become a house shape, Aldi?
There are how many birds in the tree,
and so on.
- Practicing children's physical kinesthetic intelligence. This recalcitrant, silent and unruly child has extraordinary physical energy. The child is very active in moving to follow his emotional impulses. To be able to direct and channel the excessive energy, the child needs practice by focusing on neutralizing or channeling this extraordinary energy in constructive activities, such as training children's physical kinesthetic intelligence. This physical kinesthetic intelligence is a combination of the ability to think and dexterity or expertise in carrying out a movement of all members of the body. To develop children's kinesthetic intelligence requires learning activities that are kinesthetic, dynamic and continuous. You can motivate children according to their interests, such as playing acting, dramatic improvisation, creative movements and all kinds of activities involving physical activities (sports). You can invite children to the playing field, obstacle course, swimming pool and gymnasium. Likewise, you can give children the opportunity to make various toy models, involved in handicraft activities, such as carving wood, drawing / painting or forming clay. You can also invite children to visit activities or sports competitions. Likewise, no less important, children can be invited to camp and involve themselves in various activities outside, such as exploring nature. These activities can channel children's physical activity and relaxation of children. Practicing physical kinesthetic intelligence is also beneficial for children to be more able to control their emotions, help ways to direct and focus attention and improve their ability to concentrate in doing various activities.
In addition, you need to
explore the possible effects of food poisoning that cause or as a trigger
factor for hyperactivity in this child. If you find out from your observations
that there are indications of the influence of food eaten by children on these
aggressive (hyperactive) behavior patterns, then you need to avoid having
children consume food which is the trigger factor.
Such is the way that can
be used to overcome a recalcitrant child, unable to be quiet and unruly. The
key to your success in dealing with a child's behavior deviation lies in your
patience and willingness to help provide effective training to children. The
child's success in overcoming various obstacles in controlling emotions and
fostering good behavior is your victory and happiness.
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